Love, Diamonds, and Ch’i: A Feng Shui Master’s Guide to Choosing That Special Ring

Commit? Whether it’s your first time down the aisle or your third, the bride is blushing and the diamonds should sparkle.

Here is the Feng Shui Master’s 5 Factor Guide to choosing the right ring for your one true love.

#1 SHAPE
Looking with a Feng Shui eye, diamond shapes fall into three categories:

oh Not very well
Marchioness: Sharp points can mean prickly ch’i!

Pear: a teardrop shape for happy love?

Oval – is love a race?

oh Fairly good

Princess: An evenly balanced shape, but watch out for sharp corners!

Round – love makes the world go round

oh great feng shui

Emerald – traditional, elegant with 8 sides*

Asscher – a square emerald shape

Radiant: a modern emerald shape

Old miners – a rounded square – perfect balance

*The Bagua, the Feng Shui energy map that represents all facets of life is an octagon. Shouldn’t your ring reflect all life too?

#2 COLOR
In Feng Shui we use the energy of color to lift and enhance different aspects of life.

Feng Shui Love Power Colors:
oh White – your future, children
oh Pink – love, romance, society
oh Red – fire, passion

The standard diamond is white and is perfectly suited to bring the energy of the “future” into your ring. After all, isn’t that what an engagement ring is for? If you wish to add other color energies, use other gemstones, such as red rubies for passion ch’i, to bring balance and intent to your heart. (There are natural red or pink diamonds, but the quality ones are very rare and very expensive.)

#3 STORY
The energy of the past moves into the present and the future.
A new diamond is like the proverbial blank slate; ready to absorb and hold your love ch’i. It’s when you’re looking for family heirlooms or real estate that “predecessor ch’i” becomes a factor. Just as the new ring will be imprinted with your energy, older pieces can carry the energy of previous owners and past events. (There really are “cursed” diamonds.)

oh family heirlooms
Ask for the real stories and check their true feelings. Did Grandma and Grandpa really have a wonderful marriage? If the answer is yes and you had a wonderful relationship with Grandma, then go ahead. You can add another layer of love ch’i to an already blessed stone.

If the true story isn’t about love or if you didn’t get along with her, ask yourself why you would want to wear a ring filled with dark sentiments.

oh real estate jewelry
Not all used parts have negative energy. Some are neutral or even positive. But unless you’re a good energy reader, you’d be wise to ask a friend who is for help. He will have enough to deal with in married life without adding someone else’s “karma.”

(Disclosure: I bought vintage diamonds from Debra for our 10th and 20th anniversaries. Of course, I took a deep look at the ch’i in the stones before deciding.)

#4 SCALE
To choose wisely, keep logic and desire in balance.

Size, cut, and clarity all affect price. Too high a price can stress the ch’i in the ring and in the relationship. Budget well, shop smart, and that single half-carat will dwarf all others.

Of course, what will really make it shine is Feng Shui Factor #5 –

#5 LOVE
Love really does make the world go round.

You believe in Magic? You believe in love? No matter how big or small, a diamond ring chosen with love and given with love can be a bond between lovers; a bond of love will only grow as life goes on.

Remember, in life and love, it’s not really the shape, color, age, or cost of your ring that has power. It is your desire for each other and your heart’s commitment to share the rest of your lives together.