What makes the swinging lifestyle attract people?
swinger’s adrenaline
I know a swinger who has attended numerous swinger parties and has enjoyed almost every aspect of the swinger lifestyle for almost twenty years. He is now in his early fifties and says his enthusiasm for swinging is as strong as ever.
She tells me that the main attraction to her is the adrenaline rush she gets from him. She says it’s like reading about rock climbers and other adventure sports that people experience. Every time she goes to a swinger party she experiences a “high” just by looking around her at all the potential new sexual partners that might be present. She emphasizes that this feeling occurs quite separately from her subsequent sexual arousal and is the most stimulating feeling of all.
A sense of acceptance and belonging
Another former Club Aphrodite member described his feelings about the swinger lifestyle.
“For me, it’s about a deep sense of belonging and total, nonjudgmental acceptance. This is the feeling you get when everyone is naked and sharing intimacy. No one is trying to hide anything and every person involved in sex accepts everyone.” “. otherwise, they are at the most fundamental level of human existence. I guess it’s the way we all used to feel before society dreamed of all the one-partner stuff and the false moral values people have to live with these days.”
Enjoying the best sex at home
A very common attraction for couples can be how attending swinger parties affects them when they return home. Many swinger couples say that the most enjoyable thing they get out of living a swinging lifestyle is the enhancement of their intimate sexual pleasure as a couple after coming home from a party. It doesn’t seem to matter whether or not they engage in sex while at the party. Just the adventure of going and soaking up the super charged erotic atmosphere is enough for most couples to enjoy some of their the best ever sex once back in the privacy of your own bedroom.
Voyeurism
Another great turn-on, common among swinger couples of all ages, is seeing your partner having sex with other people.
This is especially common among men, some of whom never participate in a swinger, preferring instead to simply observe the proceedings, usually from very close range, with contact and coaxing. The degree of women’s participation is sometimes limited by prior agreement between the couple so that a full sexual relationship does not take place. However, the opposite can also apply, where some men enjoy watching their partners be the central attraction of unlimited group sex in groups consisting primarily of other men.
Women are generally less voyeuristic than men, so it’s not surprising that finding women who are strongly motivated towards the swinger lifestyle by watching their male partner occurs less frequently than the other way around. Despite this fact, I have still met many couples where the female partner mentions that her main motivation for swinging is the excitement of seeing her man having sex with other women. In such cases, there is more often than not an element of female bisexual involvement and this might suggest that voyeurism itself is primarily a secondary factor. For many couples in which the woman is so motivated, arranging threesomes with a single bisexual woman is a common practice. These can take place at swinger clubs and parties, but are often arranged through online adult dating to take place in private locations. Much less common is the so-called reverse orgy but it is not entirely unheard of for a woman to arrange this as the ultimate sexual gift for her husband’s or boyfriend’s birthday etc.
Respect what attracts other swingers.
The swinger lifestyle appeals for many more reasons than those mentioned here and it is essential to understand that we are all different and that what can be very pleasurable for one person can be quite unpleasant for another.
My point of view has always been that anything that turns you on is fine, as long as you don’t expect others to always feel the same way about everything.